anal sex - tips & experiences

slave_karirenee asked "Is there anything that you can do to make it less painful? Is there anything that can do to prepare yourself before doing sex? And finally, is there anything that you can do to mentally prepare yourself? Because I think most of it, is that I have a mental block, for some reason. "

The first time it happened was when she was 18. she was at her future mother-in-law’s house. N. had cooked deidre a lovely meal things had wound down and we were sitting in the fireplace room. We started kissing and making out and eventually were naked. deidre got down on the floor and bent over an ottoman so that we could fuck doggie style (deidre’s favorite position) Everything was fine until N’s cock slipped out of deidre’s cunt and slammed hard all the way into her ass.

deidre thought she was going to die. It hurt so badly that she ended up curling into a fetal position and laying there crying until the pain went away. For the next 7 years, while she still loved being fucked from behind, there was always this little thought rattling around that it just may happen again. N. only tried once more to use deidre’s ass and it was a failure. He was so worried about causing deidre pain that his cock never even made it all of the way in.

deidre’s next experiences with anal sex were with B, the Dom she was fucking before her divorce and before she met Master. One night we were in his car, deidre was on her back with her ass resting on the center console, her back on the seat and her head and neck bend up against the passenger side door. B was fingering her cunt pretty vigorously and had her cum three or four times. When she was done he told her that during the first orgasm he had slipped a finger into her ass and had been fucking both holes at the same time. seidre never even noticed the finger going in. she didn’t realize that he had slipped it in until he told her.

After that he would use her ass whenever he wanted. He’d slide his cock inside deidre’s cunt, fuck her for a few strokes so it was slick with her pussy juice and then force it up inside her ass. He had quite a thick cock and liked to use it as an ass-stretching tool. He’d push himself all the way in and the rotate his hips causing deidre even more pain than his dick alone would have.

deidre distinctly remembers one time when she had her hands bound behind her back, nipple clamps on her nipples with her chest down on the floor as he fucked her ass from behind. Every time he thrust it forced deidre’s clamped nipples to rub against the floor, eventually, without the use of her hands to keep her in one place she slid so far that her head was banging up against the wall. It was one of the most painful sex experiences deidre has had.

The last time that deidre had anal sex where it hurt badly was on the night of her collaring, as part of the ceremony. After placing the collar around her neck, Master dribbled some lube onto her tongue and instructed her to lube His cock. He then had her get down onto her hands and knees and began to fuck her hard. There was no prep time, no time for deidre to relax, at this point she still was terrified of anal sex. Master used his cock as a tool to hurt her, to take her violently until she was crying and whimpering. It seemed to take forever but finally He left His seed inside her.

After that night Master worked with deidre on making anal sex more enjoyable. He would insert small butt plugs into her to stretch her just a little before hand, or allow her to slide a finger up inside to open herself up a little. He’d make sure that both his cock and deidre’s asshole were well lubed and that deidre relaxed a little before sliding it in. Sometimes He would just slide it in and hold it there while deidre rubbed her clit and made herself cum, other times she was allowed to masturbate while He fucked her ass slowly. Eventually deidre got to the point where Master could fuck her ass very hard and she would be able to cum without any other stimulation whatsoever.



Here are deidre’s anal tips

First, relaxation is very important. The inside of your asshole is like a little tube with two separate muscles surrounding it. The external sphincter muscle is under your control, the internal one is not. If you can get yourself into the right state of mind the sphincter will not clench down just before hand making it harder to penetrate and more painful.

Secondly, lubrication is also very important. Use as much as you are comfortable with. If you need to get a towel to place under you, go for it. Lube up both the cock and your ass, inside and outside.

Masturbation can be very helpful as well. If you play with yourself it will help to take your mind off of what is happening and will combine the pleasure of cumming with any initial discomfort with having something slide into your ass.

Practice is also a good idea. Get to know your asshole. Place a mirror on the floor and crouch over to see just what it looks like. Try using a lubed finger or even something like a baby carrot to start out with. Just relax and slide it in slowly. You can test your sphincter relaxation by tightening and loosening around the object. In this way you will be able to know what your body feels like when it’s relaxing and more easily put yourself into that state just before anal sex.

After the finger/carrot stage, move to a small anal plug or dildo/vibe. Again lube it and your anus well, take your time and relax. Try fucking yourself at different speeds and in different positions to see what feels the best.

Lastly you will be ready for a large dildo or cock. Just beforehand, lube a finger and slide it in. It will open you slightly for the larger object. Get into the chosen position, remember to relax, and begin to experience a wonderful new aspect of your sexuality.

Is Piss Play Safe?

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Over the line?

Question from SlavemasterD ~ Does your slavery include your Master's right to order you to have sex with people of his choosing or is that over the line?

Yes, MasterD. deidre’s slavery includes His right to order her to have sex with anyone or anything. deidre has no limits with Him. If He ordered her to eat shit, she would. If He ordered her to stand still as He cut off the big toe on her left foot, she would (do her best). If He ordered her to walk out of the house and down the street to the grocery store naked knowing that she would probably get thrown in jail, she would. You can add more extreme things to this list if You wish. Pick anything at all, no matter how outlandish, the answer is yes. deidre’s job is simply to obey.

Is it possible for deidre to make a choice to not do something. Sure. Of course it is. deidre has a conscience, she has fears and dislikes. Is it probable that deidre will make a choice not to do something. No. Master has His reasons for everything that He instructs her to do. deidre may not know or understand them, but they are reasons nonetheless.

deidre also has a slight advantage because she knows that Master takes His responsibility seriously and isn’t likely to order her to murder someone, or do something to deidre that will damage her just because He can. He’s not on a power trip, and doesn’t need to test deidre’s devotion. After all what is the point of having a slave if she is in prison or is wounded or ill and cannot serve?

Pony Boy

Oh man was this call fun. There’s a little bit of background to it. deidre is a slave who serves her Master by creating tapes to use for Blackmail. This particular client has lapsed a little bit and needs to be taught a little lesson. deidre’s been threatening him for months with sending tapes of him as a pony being fucked in the ass to his boss and several others at his place of employment.

(this is where the call starts) Just to insure that he realizes the seriousness of the situation deidre shows up one day at His house wearing a full latex body suit and her bright purple strap on. His wife is home, but she has no idea of who this girl is. deidre forces him to take off his pants in front of her and get onto his hands and knees like a good little bitch. She looks at his wife while squatting over him, then begins to ride him like a pony, her heels digging into his ribs that strap on rubbing against his lower back as she crops him yelling "Heehaw, Giddyup" forcing her little pony boy to neigh for her in front off his wife.

After he has completely humiliated himself she gets down and kneels down behind him to begin to fuck his ass with her strap on, hard, fast and deep. His cock is throbbing. His wife is standing there against the wall wide eyed, not quite believing what is happening when deidre asks her "You think he’s not my little bitch? You don’t believe he could possibly get off from this? You just keep on watching honey" deidre reaches down to begin to stroke his cock asking him who he belongs to, whose bitch he is, until he spunks onto his wife’s freshly cleaned floor.

Rrrraaaarrrrr!

The subjects of animal welfare, and the prevention of animal neglect and abuse are ones that are very close to deidre’s heart.

It began when she was in high school. she’d just moved up to the Sierra foothills. In the news were stories of people who had been hiking, or on their horse ranches and were attacked or killed by mountain lions. Generally the creature was simply trying to protect a cub or to defend it’s territory. Afterward, these animals would be hunted and killed. Now, deidre understands that once an animal like that gets the taste for human blood there is no way to fix it. she’s not saying that she knows what the solution is, just that there should be one.

What she is saying is that the reason that these attacks are happening is because the land that the animals can live on without human contact is quickly being taken over and turned into subdivisions, shopping centers and office buildings. There’s nowhere left for them to go. They are forced to adapt to the changes around them, and to defend what little is left for them.

When she was a senior she had an assignment for her economics class while we were learning about sole proprietorships, partnerships, corporations etc. The idea was to set up an imaginary corporation in the same way that a real one would need to be. Board members would need to be selected, office/business space leased, purchased or built, articles of incorporation written up etc.

Of course, deidre was the girl that always had to do things a little differently. Instead of a corporation, deidre decided to beg her teacher to be able to do a non-profit organization. Knowing the teacher, deidre made sure that she was wearing the lowest cut tight little top she could find and a very short little skirt. He had a thing for her legs. Eventually he said yes.

deidre got to work researching the requirements for a large animal rescue facility, buying up hundreds of acres, setting up imaginary equipment and writing up her own bylaws. By the time she was done she knew just about everything that a 16 year old could about caring for abandoned and abused large cats and if financed properly would have actually set it up after graduation.

Yesterday, thanks to everyone’s suggestions, deidre started putting together a short list of things that she would like to do for her birthday. They needed to be things that are close, not outrageously expensive and something that Master would enjoy as well. Some of these things include going to the aquarium as Daddy’s little girl, spending a day downtown going through the museums and antique stores, taking out the sailboat that Master built and having our own private picnic on a little island out in the Gulf and finally, the one that deidre really wants to do, go to Big Cat Rescue, a sanctuary over in Tampa. Theme restaurants, the theater and the symphony were also on the list but there are no local places like Medieval Times and deidre’s birthday falls on a weekend when there is nothing at the theater and the symphony is not playing.

So she was hunting around on the internet researching some of her options, writing down times of operation and admission prices etc, when she came to the website for the big cat sanctuary. Not only can a girl go there to see the animals but she can volunteer too! One of the things that deidre was looking forward to once a sister is here is having a little less time working, which makes more time for other things. she’s been considering spending her days off doing this anyway, she just didn’t know what she wanted to volunteer for. It would have to be book, music or animal related.

First you have to go on a regular tour, and then go through a volunteer orientation. At the end of the orientation is an interview with the volunteer committee. After that one gets their newbie shirt and starts within a week. There is a minimum of 16 hours per month to start with. deidre’s planning on talking with some people there when (if) she goes for her birthday to see if the required hours can be set by the volunteer or if deidre would have to make a whole new work schedule for herself in order to do this. Ideally she could go twice a month, every other Monday, working 8 hours each time. This could be the beginning (rebirth?) of deidre’s newest obsession and something that she can see herself being a part of for years to come.

All of the talk about the girls that are going to kindergarten for the first time reminds deidre of A’s first day. she’d been going to preschool at least 2 days a week since shortly after her second birthday. deidre thought it was important for her to have interactions with other kiddos her age. There weren’t too many kids near our home. It was all horse ranch property. A made some great friends.

Too soon it was time for her to go to "big girl school" though. On one hand it was a blessing, no more paying $18/day, but on the other hand, as bella said, it meant that A was starting to grow up. A was so excited to pick out her backpack and lunch bag, and her new outfit for the first day of school. These are the kinds of things that deidre will never forget. A’s eyes were wide with excitement, and she just couldn’t sit still.

deidre really hopes that one day her ex-husband grows up and lets deidre back into A’s life.

Master will be leaving again on Sunday for a quick trip up to Atlanta. He’ll be gone for 3 or 4 days, then come home for 3 or 4 days and then He leaves again for His bro’s birthday trip and will be gone another 12. Compared to kaya’s Master’s absence, this is nothing. Master’s trips seem to be getting longer and longer though. Maybe in the end Master needs 2 slaves not to be sisters but because He can install one at His home in Atlanta, spend half of His time there, and the other half here with deidre. Hell, if He’s going to go that far He may as well just search for 3. That way there can be 2 in each home, we can keep each other company when He’s gone and be doubly pleasing when He’s with us.

The photo shoot that deidre had back on the 7th was a lot of fun. It was for a Damsel in Distress site with a photographer that she met at last year’s FetishCon. There were several different "kidnapping" scenes in which deidre was tied down to a chair or table and left struggling. she was "pushed" into the pool with a weight tied to her ankles, she was "blown up" a few times by different bombs, there was even a scene with a knife, and one with a noose. Overall deidre has more than 800 photos to sort through and hopes that she can work with the photographer again. It was just a blast!

deidre’s been sleeping terribly lately. she started taking and antibiotic on Sunday that made her feel sort of foggy to begin with, then it turned into this terrible throbbing headache, and now she thinks that it is keeping her awake. It could be something else, but she’s blaming the pills for now. she got up this morning after only about 4 hours of sporadic sleep and needed coffee…badly. She went out to the kitchen, put the water into the maker, put in the filter ect and got it started. A little while later she went back to get her first cup and realized that she had forgotten to put the grounds into the filter. Usually deidre is pretty non-functional before coffee, but this morning was just pathetic.

deidre doesn’t know if it will be a valuable resource to anyone, but soon she’s going to be adding a "Reading List’ link. deidre goes through a lot of books (good thing for libraries!). Someone out there might be interested in what she’s reading.

If you can’t tell, deidre is running out of things to write about (in general, not just in this post) and it will be worse when Master is away. A few months ago deidre invited anyone to ask anything that they might want to know, up to 6 questions. She answered them one at a time as thoroughly as possible. Now she’s inviting you all to do it again, or to do it for the first time. Ask about anything except personal contact information. Please give deidre something to do when Master’s away that is worth being posted.

~deidre~

Playing Games

deidre has recently been chatting with a “Domme” from New York who kept insisting that she wanted to see deidre on cam. Since this was a woman who would eventually be here to use deidre in person this wasn’t a big deal but our first conversation was only a couple of days ago.

deidre understands someone’s desire to verify that a person is real. It’s pretty hard to make yourself look like a sweet young slave if you are a 60 year old horny balding overweight man on cam. But after a 2 minute ‘yes deidre is real’ cam showing this woman wanted to see deidre naked being disciplined. She kept insisting that she was now deidre’s co-owner (after 2 days?) and that Master said she could do anything that she wanted blah blah blah.

So deidre set up a couple of tests, one of which were references (which the “Domme” volunteered) through e-mail. When the first reference came back – surprise - surprise - the IP address was exactly the same as the Domme’s. This woman attempted to make a few excuses about how the computer must still be registered in NYC, but it’s pretty much impossible for 2 computers to have the same IP address unless they are right there at the same internet port using the same ISP. There was no way that it was a coincidence. So deidre drilled her until finally the bitch admitted that it was her boyfriend who had sent the e-mail from her computer. Not only had she lied about the reference, and the source of the reference but the entire thing was composed by her in the first place. Dishonesty is not something that deidre needs in her life so she basically said goodbye.

Anyway. The point is that sometimes you can do something to figure out who the fakes are. There are certain signs.

* Inconsistent stories – In building a relationship honestly is very important.
* Insistence of nude photos, or nude cam use from the beginning – Anyone who is really looking for a lifetime commitment can be patient enough to wait a little while before moving onto this step.
* Photos are only polished model type photos. No casual shots. – Sometimes this might not mean anything but chances are good that the photos were stolen from somewhere.
* Their e-mail address/chat name is new – If the username is new (yahoo shows you the creation date on profiles) then it may have been created as part of their game. This alone is certainly not an indicator, but coupled with some of the other points might cause one to wonder.
* If the relationship doesn’t move to phone in a few weeks – Unless the person is in another country and it’s not economical, there should be no reason why the connection cannot be taken to the next level.
* Chat is only erotic cyber-sex – No real partner who wants the relationship to grow is going to be interested in only sex.
* If things are set up to meet and the person refuses to give you personal information so that they can be “checked out”. - A person who has been honest with you all along should have no problem giving you their address, telephone number, full name and possibly SS# so that you can run a check on them.
* If the person is Dom and refuses you the ability to make safe calls. - Something is fishy if this is the case. If it’s your first visit this is a vital part of establishing trust and ensuring that your loved ones know you are alright.
* If the person never shows up at the airport (had this one happen). – Well obviously this is a pretty good indicator.
* If the person refuses to tell the people they are closest to that they are moving when the time comes (had this one too). – Either the person hasn’t made up their mind yet or they have already decided that they aren’t going to. Again, if a person can’t be honest what is the point?

There must be other signs, and she’s pretty sure that over the last 2 years she’s experienced them all. The search for a sister can sometimes be frustrating, but deidre knows that the perfect girl is out there somewhere just waiting to be taken as Master’s.

Wicca, handjobs and poetry

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Mad as Hell

You know, deidre just doesn’t get it. she’s not a political person. she knows the bare minimum about world news etc, but fuck! Why do they feel like they need to come here and fucking blow shit up. The world trade center was full of innocent people who had never done shit to any of them. It was all about the shock value. Let’s shake up those Americans. What did they get? They got a war where we go over and kill more people, so that they can come here to kill more innocent people, so that we can step up the amount of ass we are kicking there and kill more people.

When does it stop?

Piss Play Pointers

If you’ve never tasted it, be warned, it’s like drinking a very bitter hot tea (minus the tea). It may make you gag, and will probably make you shudder. deidre would recommend getting used to the taste by drinking your own. deidre has several callers that have her lick her own piss up off of the floor or drink it out of a bowl. It keeps her in practice and has helped her to get used to it.

Master will normally drink A LOT of water before He allows deidre to take His water. 6 – 8 cups or so. This dilutes it. Remember piss is all of the liquid waste from your body. It’s the crap that your body can’t use. He’ll also pee once or twice before He lets deidre start to drink it.

The first few times He allowed deidre to be down on the floor in the shower. He would push His cock into her mouth. deidre thinks that since her mouth was full of cock there was no room for the piss and it made it harder to swallow.

Master would try to control the flow of His piss letting it come out into little spurts, but it still didn’t seem to help. As hard as deidre tried some of it would still end up on her and not in her tummy. So Master modified His technique a little. deidre was allowed to begin just placing her lips at the tip of His cock, taking part of His head into her mouth as He gave her His water. This seemed to work much better. deidre stopped spilling any. We basically just turned His cock into a straw.

He’ll also have her down on her knees with her mouth open like a little birdy and piss into her mouth that way. Now that she’s had more practice swallowing with her mouth open it’s easier to do so.

Being drunk might help a little too. ;) The last time deidre remembers it being really easy was after a shared bottle of champagne.

deidre would recommend that you do not try to make yourself think it’s lemonade by refrigerating it and putting ice cubes in it. deidre doesn’t know how or why, but it just makes it worse.

deidre has probably left some things out so if you have anything to add please feel free.