anal sex - tips & experiences
slave_karirenee asked "Is there anything that you can do to make it less painful? Is there anything that can do to prepare yourself before doing sex? And finally, is there anything that you can do to mentally prepare yourself? Because I think most of it, is that I have a mental block, for some reason. "
The first time it happened was when she was 18. she was at her future mother-in-law’s house. N. had cooked deidre a lovely meal things had wound down and we were sitting in the fireplace room. We started kissing and making out and eventually were naked. deidre got down on the floor and bent over an ottoman so that we could fuck doggie style (deidre’s favorite position) Everything was fine until N’s cock slipped out of deidre’s cunt and slammed hard all the way into her ass.
deidre thought she was going to die. It hurt so badly that she ended up curling into a fetal position and laying there crying until the pain went away. For the next 7 years, while she still loved being fucked from behind, there was always this little thought rattling around that it just may happen again. N. only tried once more to use deidre’s ass and it was a failure. He was so worried about causing deidre pain that his cock never even made it all of the way in.
deidre’s next experiences with anal sex were with B, the Dom she was fucking before her divorce and before she met Master. One night we were in his car, deidre was on her back with her ass resting on the center console, her back on the seat and her head and neck bend up against the passenger side door. B was fingering her cunt pretty vigorously and had her cum three or four times. When she was done he told her that during the first orgasm he had slipped a finger into her ass and had been fucking both holes at the same time. seidre never even noticed the finger going in. she didn’t realize that he had slipped it in until he told her.
After that he would use her ass whenever he wanted. He’d slide his cock inside deidre’s cunt, fuck her for a few strokes so it was slick with her pussy juice and then force it up inside her ass. He had quite a thick cock and liked to use it as an ass-stretching tool. He’d push himself all the way in and the rotate his hips causing deidre even more pain than his dick alone would have.
deidre distinctly remembers one time when she had her hands bound behind her back, nipple clamps on her nipples with her chest down on the floor as he fucked her ass from behind. Every time he thrust it forced deidre’s clamped nipples to rub against the floor, eventually, without the use of her hands to keep her in one place she slid so far that her head was banging up against the wall. It was one of the most painful sex experiences deidre has had.
The last time that deidre had anal sex where it hurt badly was on the night of her collaring, as part of the ceremony. After placing the collar around her neck, Master dribbled some lube onto her tongue and instructed her to lube His cock. He then had her get down onto her hands and knees and began to fuck her hard. There was no prep time, no time for deidre to relax, at this point she still was terrified of anal sex. Master used his cock as a tool to hurt her, to take her violently until she was crying and whimpering. It seemed to take forever but finally He left His seed inside her.
After that night Master worked with deidre on making anal sex more enjoyable. He would insert small butt plugs into her to stretch her just a little before hand, or allow her to slide a finger up inside to open herself up a little. He’d make sure that both his cock and deidre’s asshole were well lubed and that deidre relaxed a little before sliding it in. Sometimes He would just slide it in and hold it there while deidre rubbed her clit and made herself cum, other times she was allowed to masturbate while He fucked her ass slowly. Eventually deidre got to the point where Master could fuck her ass very hard and she would be able to cum without any other stimulation whatsoever.
Here are deidre’s anal tips
First, relaxation is very important. The inside of your asshole is like a little tube with two separate muscles surrounding it. The external sphincter muscle is under your control, the internal one is not. If you can get yourself into the right state of mind the sphincter will not clench down just before hand making it harder to penetrate and more painful.
Secondly, lubrication is also very important. Use as much as you are comfortable with. If you need to get a towel to place under you, go for it. Lube up both the cock and your ass, inside and outside.
Masturbation can be very helpful as well. If you play with yourself it will help to take your mind off of what is happening and will combine the pleasure of cumming with any initial discomfort with having something slide into your ass.
Practice is also a good idea. Get to know your asshole. Place a mirror on the floor and crouch over to see just what it looks like. Try using a lubed finger or even something like a baby carrot to start out with. Just relax and slide it in slowly. You can test your sphincter relaxation by tightening and loosening around the object. In this way you will be able to know what your body feels like when it’s relaxing and more easily put yourself into that state just before anal sex.
After the finger/carrot stage, move to a small anal plug or dildo/vibe. Again lube it and your anus well, take your time and relax. Try fucking yourself at different speeds and in different positions to see what feels the best.
Lastly you will be ready for a large dildo or cock. Just beforehand, lube a finger and slide it in. It will open you slightly for the larger object. Get into the chosen position, remember to relax, and begin to experience a wonderful new aspect of your sexuality.
